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I would tell you, and a younger me, that you should definitely do things that scare you. Even if...EVEN IF...you have inklings that he is not "the one", you should definitely press forward. Because finding out that he's a jerk, or making a fool out of yourself, or getting dumped, is an experience that you will LEARN from. I would always get to know someone, and if I had a thought that long term she wasn't perfect for me, or saw any warning signs, I would exit. Perfectly safe. And perfectly boring. And perfectly not preparing me for relationships with women.
But I'm just being a totally scared idiot.
Yesh.
you should definitely press forward
Eventually I'm going to wind up eloping, because you guys think I should be more adventurous. Then where we will be?
But seriously, so far, so good, so long as I just stay out of my head about it.
I'm already planning your wedding. (no pressure)
Seriously, this sounds promising. Remember, he's most likely much more insecure than you, so just let it happen organically. A concert sounds like a great next step. Go Toosie!
Would you like roses and gardenias for your bouquet...? Kidding. Totally kidding.
I'm already naming the kids. And what their usernames on Northern Attack will be.
I think 2' Closer to Jinx has a nice ring to it.
he's most likely much more insecure than you
I'm not sure that's possible.
bouquet... naming the kids
You know "rose" kills two birds.
As long as you guys are having fun, that's the most important thing. :-)
You don't have to take me along, you just have to tell me about it. If I accidentally happen to be there, oh well. And if I accidentally have a couple of your midwest friends with me, oh well again.
you just have to tell me about it.
Do I do anything without putting it online?
And if I accidentally have a couple of your midwest friends with me
So long as my midwest grandma isn't.
See what @toosie did there.
Just for you, Bri.
As long as you guys are having fun, that's the most important thing. :-)
Why yes, yes it is.
I think 2' Closer to Jinx has a nice ring to it
Well, maybe if it's a boy. But if it's a girl, I'm thinking Take the Copier. Or Gardenia. (2 birds again, Toos)
Toosie, you're such an awesome person. Instead of feeling embarrassed about a 'lack' of experience, you should know that there is no real way to be experienced with a new person. That is the best part about new relationships. Even if you have "experience", it's never the same with a different person. And, if he's nice, he's just as excited as you about exploring new territory. As long as you approach it with humor and honesty (which is pretty much your MO) you're going to be JUST FINE.
Besides, kissing isn't about prowess or whatever. It's about connecting with someone else. There's no right way to do it. :)
And also, everything everyone else said. Fear is a silly, silly thing.
The minute he asks "how do you feel about Game of Thrones-themed roleplay?," you might want to start running :-p
It's hard out there for shy people to connect with the opposite sex. A lot of my time away from work is spent with family or on my own, I haven't really been on a "date" date in a while.
So here's the follow up. We went out 4 times and times got increasingly uncomfortable. He asked me the other day if I'd want to go on a picnic this weekend. I freaked out, because I had basically decided to try to end it somehow.
I talked to different folks, and eventually my own folks, about what I should do. I ultimately followed my dad's advice and said that we could go, if he wanted, but that I didn't really see it going in a romantical direction. He said that he honestly was feeling the same way, but was trying to put a lot of effort into it.
(It was way too much effort.)
Anyway, we both like generally talking to each other and want to be friends... we're not going on the picnic, or to the concert, but we are going to go play some mini-golf in a few weeks to celebrate when his semester ends.
So, long story short, a new friend I can talk to online whenever I want and can hang out with in real life whenever I want, yay!
While not an ideal outcome, it certainly beats many of the alternatives and you learned that an honest discussion was a lot better than delaying the inevitable. Many folks never learn this lesson. Congrats.
No kidding. Maturity for the m'f'ing win! That's a good outcome even if you didn't make a love connection.
Yay for you Toosie, and your mature, reasonable decisions. Can you teach the rest of the world how to act?